PLAYER DEVELOPMENT PROBLEM: ENTITLEMENT
MY SON WORKS HARD AT TRAINING, DOESN'T MISS A SIGNLE PRACTICE - HE DESERVES TO START IN GAMES!!! WHY IS HE NOT STARTING OR NOT PLAYING ENOUGH??
AS A COACH I HEAR THAT ALMOST EVERY MONTH. EVEN AT TOP COMPETITION LEVEL (DA) AND OLDER (U17) AGE GROUP I STILL SEE THIS!
I HAD PLAYERS QUITTING IN PRESEASON BECAUSE THEY FELT THEY WILL NOT START. I HAD PLAYERS QUITTING RIGHT AFTER THE GAME BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T PLAY A SINGLE MINUTE IN THAT SPECIFIC GAME! I SAW PARENTS COME TO THE BENCH DURING THE GAME AND TAKING THE KID HOME BECAUSE HE WAS A SUB! I CAN KEEP GOING - I'VE SEEN A LOT!
SO LET ME BE VERY STRAIGHT FORWARD HERE:
AS A COACH, I WANT TO PLAY MY STRONGEST TEAM BECAUSE I WANT MY TEAM TO PERFORM WELL AND TO WIN. THIS IS IT!!
SO IF YOUR PLAYER DOESN'T START OR DOESN'T PLAY ENOUGH IT MEANS ONLY ONE THING - AT THIS MOMENT I THINK ANOTHER PLAYER CAN GIVE THE TEAM MORE!
THAT'S IT!
NO, I DON'T HAVE PERSONAL SYMPATHY TO ANY PLAYER.
AND, YES, MY OPINION IS SUBJECTIVE AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO AGREE WITH IT.
BUT I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE RESULT SO I'LL MAKE MY OWN DECISIONS AND ALL I WANT YOU TO UNDERSTAND IS THAT TEAM INTEREST IS THE MAIN FACTOR FOR MY DECISIONS.
ONCE AGAIN, I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT U8 TEAM OR RECREATIONAL LEVEL - HERE I'M FOCUSED ON TOP LEVEL PLAYERS AT OLDER AGE GROUPS AND TOP LEVEL COMPETITION.
YOUR PLAYER WORKS VERY HARD AT TRAINING?
WELL... I EXPECT THIS! IF HE DOESN'T HE SHOULD NOT BE ON THE TEAM, SO IT IS NOT SOMETHING OUTSTANDING.
HE WORKS MUCH HARDER THAN THE PLAYER WHO STARTS INSTEAD OF HIM?
FIRST, HOW DO YOU KNOW THIS? - IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS TO EVALUATE OTHER PLAYERS!
SECOND, IF THIS IS TRUE YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT AND JUST NEED TO BE PATIENT - SOONER OR LATER HE WILL PERFORM BETTER THAN CURRENT STARTER. THERE IS NO MAGIC - IF PLAYERS ARE SIMILAR QUALITIES THEN USUALLY HARD WORKER EVENTUALLY WINS.
YOUR PLAYER DOESN'T MISS A SINGLE TRAINING?
THIS IS HOW IT SHOULD BE! IT IS NOT SOMETHING YOU NEED TO BRING UP.
AT THE END OF THE DAY I DON'T CARE WHO WORKS HARD, WHO IS SERIOUS ABOUT IT AND WHO IS NOT! TIME WILL SHOW THE RESULT OF YOUR WORK ETHICS ETC. I JUST EVALUATE PERFORMANCE ON THE FIELD AND I PUT THE TEAM WHICH I THINK IS BEST SUITED TO PERFORM WELL IN SPECIFIC GAME.
ONE OF BIGGEST THINGS ABOUT AMERICA IS THAT WE WORK HARD TO GET WHAT WE DESERVE AND WE ARE COMPETING EVERY DAY TO BE SUCCESSFUL.
SO WHY NOW WE ARE SO SOFT ON OUR KIDS AND DON'T LET THEM TO LEARN FIGHT FOR THEIR SUCCESS??
I THINK PAY TO PLAY SYSTEM RUINS OUR UNDERSTANDING OF COMPETITION! I PAY A LOT OF MONEY SO THAT MY SON PLAYS ON THE TEAM. I DON'T PAY TO WATCH HIM SITTING ON THE BENCH!!
THIS IS A REC MENTALITY. YOU PAY MONEY FOR YOUR SON TO BE ABLE TO TRAIN AT SPECIFIC TEAM AND FIGHT FOR HIS SPOT! YOU PAY MONEY FOR HIM TO EXPERIENCE SUCCESS AND FAILURE AND LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE!! THIS IS NOT ONLY ABOUT SOCCER - IT IS ABOUT ATTITUDE TO LIFE!
DO YOU REALLY FEEL YOU ENTITLED TO SOMETHING? TALENT AND HARD WORK IS THE ONLY WAY YOU GET WHERE YOU WANT TO GET!! NOT MONEY, NOT THE STATUS - JUST PERFORMANCE ON THE FIELD!!
I ALWAYS SAY THAT YOU CAN CHEAT THE SYSTEM SHORT TERM (TALK TO COACH OR OTHER PEOPLE AND MAKE YOUR SON PLAY MORE THAN BEFORE) BUT YOU CAN'T HEAT THE SYSTEM LONG TERM (IF HE DOESN'T HAVE WHAT IT NEEDS TO BE TOP LEVEL PLAYER HE WILL NOT RECH IT).
HE IS NOT PLAYING ENOUGH? WELL, YOU HAVE TWO OPTIONS:
- TELL YOUR SON THAT HE IS PRIVILEGED AND COACH DOESN'T KNOW WHAT HE IS DOING SO YOU JUST LOOK FOR ANOTHER PLACE (AND IN SOME TIME YOU WILL BE LOOKING AGAIN AND AGAIN).
- TELL YOUR SON THAT HE NEEDS TO KEEP WORKING AND SHOW COACH THAT THE TEAM NEEDS YOU ON THE FIELD! IT WILL ALSO TEACH HIM TO BE PATIENT AND WORK FOR HIS SUCCESS!!
PLAYING TIME IS IMPORTANT BUT LET'S BE CLEAR - MOST OF THE DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS DURING TRAINING SO FOCUS ON THIS AND KEEP WORKING AND IMPROVING!!
AND PLEASE REMEMBER THE EXPERIENCE YOUR KID HAS ON THE TEAM IS A LIFE EXPERIENCE - IT IS NOT JUST ABOUT SOCCER!!
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IF YOU LIVE IN COLORADO AND WANT TO LEARN HOW TO PLAY PROPER SOCCER UNDER PRESSURE - REGISTER FOR OUR SIQ SPRING CAMP NOW!
CAMP WILL START ON MARCH 22ND
SIGN UP FOR THE CAMP HERE:
https://siqacademy.com/springtraining
_________________________________________________
NOW I JUST WANT TO REMIND EVERYONE THAT THOSE PLAYERS IN COLORADO WHO LIKE SIQ TRAINING SHOULD NOT MISS THE OPPORTUNITY TO TRAIN WITH SPANISH COACHES THIS SUMMER!!
IF YOU WANT YOUR PLAYER TO LEARN FROM COACHES WHO THINK ABOUT SOCCER 24/7 - THIS CAMP IS FOR YOU!!
This is not an easy camp as each day players go through two on field training sessions and 90min of classroom video session (on my opinion extremely valuable tool which to my knowledge no camps in Colorado offer).
Each day field training is connected with video session so players can immediately apply on the field the knowledge they got in classroom. Of course it is not easy and requires a lot of focus and hard work during the day but the effect can be very significant - some parents shared with me that this camp had very significant impact on their player's development.
BUT IF YOU ARE SERIOUS ABOUT SOCCER - THIS CAMP IS FOR YOU!!
WE HAVE 10% DISCOUNT UNTILL MARCH 1ST!!!
HERE is link to registration:
https://siqacademy.com/spaintraining
AS A COACH I HEAR THAT ALMOST EVERY MONTH. EVEN AT TOP COMPETITION LEVEL (DA) AND OLDER (U17) AGE GROUP I STILL SEE THIS!
I HAD PLAYERS QUITTING IN PRESEASON BECAUSE THEY FELT THEY WILL NOT START. I HAD PLAYERS QUITTING RIGHT AFTER THE GAME BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T PLAY A SINGLE MINUTE IN THAT SPECIFIC GAME! I SAW PARENTS COME TO THE BENCH DURING THE GAME AND TAKING THE KID HOME BECAUSE HE WAS A SUB! I CAN KEEP GOING - I'VE SEEN A LOT!
SO LET ME BE VERY STRAIGHT FORWARD HERE:
AS A COACH, I WANT TO PLAY MY STRONGEST TEAM BECAUSE I WANT MY TEAM TO PERFORM WELL AND TO WIN. THIS IS IT!!
SO IF YOUR PLAYER DOESN'T START OR DOESN'T PLAY ENOUGH IT MEANS ONLY ONE THING - AT THIS MOMENT I THINK ANOTHER PLAYER CAN GIVE THE TEAM MORE!
THAT'S IT!
NO, I DON'T HAVE PERSONAL SYMPATHY TO ANY PLAYER.
AND, YES, MY OPINION IS SUBJECTIVE AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO AGREE WITH IT.
BUT I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE RESULT SO I'LL MAKE MY OWN DECISIONS AND ALL I WANT YOU TO UNDERSTAND IS THAT TEAM INTEREST IS THE MAIN FACTOR FOR MY DECISIONS.
ONCE AGAIN, I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT U8 TEAM OR RECREATIONAL LEVEL - HERE I'M FOCUSED ON TOP LEVEL PLAYERS AT OLDER AGE GROUPS AND TOP LEVEL COMPETITION.
YOUR PLAYER WORKS VERY HARD AT TRAINING?
WELL... I EXPECT THIS! IF HE DOESN'T HE SHOULD NOT BE ON THE TEAM, SO IT IS NOT SOMETHING OUTSTANDING.
HE WORKS MUCH HARDER THAN THE PLAYER WHO STARTS INSTEAD OF HIM?
FIRST, HOW DO YOU KNOW THIS? - IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS TO EVALUATE OTHER PLAYERS!
SECOND, IF THIS IS TRUE YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT AND JUST NEED TO BE PATIENT - SOONER OR LATER HE WILL PERFORM BETTER THAN CURRENT STARTER. THERE IS NO MAGIC - IF PLAYERS ARE SIMILAR QUALITIES THEN USUALLY HARD WORKER EVENTUALLY WINS.
YOUR PLAYER DOESN'T MISS A SINGLE TRAINING?
THIS IS HOW IT SHOULD BE! IT IS NOT SOMETHING YOU NEED TO BRING UP.
AT THE END OF THE DAY I DON'T CARE WHO WORKS HARD, WHO IS SERIOUS ABOUT IT AND WHO IS NOT! TIME WILL SHOW THE RESULT OF YOUR WORK ETHICS ETC. I JUST EVALUATE PERFORMANCE ON THE FIELD AND I PUT THE TEAM WHICH I THINK IS BEST SUITED TO PERFORM WELL IN SPECIFIC GAME.
ONE OF BIGGEST THINGS ABOUT AMERICA IS THAT WE WORK HARD TO GET WHAT WE DESERVE AND WE ARE COMPETING EVERY DAY TO BE SUCCESSFUL.
SO WHY NOW WE ARE SO SOFT ON OUR KIDS AND DON'T LET THEM TO LEARN FIGHT FOR THEIR SUCCESS??
I THINK PAY TO PLAY SYSTEM RUINS OUR UNDERSTANDING OF COMPETITION! I PAY A LOT OF MONEY SO THAT MY SON PLAYS ON THE TEAM. I DON'T PAY TO WATCH HIM SITTING ON THE BENCH!!
THIS IS A REC MENTALITY. YOU PAY MONEY FOR YOUR SON TO BE ABLE TO TRAIN AT SPECIFIC TEAM AND FIGHT FOR HIS SPOT! YOU PAY MONEY FOR HIM TO EXPERIENCE SUCCESS AND FAILURE AND LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE!! THIS IS NOT ONLY ABOUT SOCCER - IT IS ABOUT ATTITUDE TO LIFE!
DO YOU REALLY FEEL YOU ENTITLED TO SOMETHING? TALENT AND HARD WORK IS THE ONLY WAY YOU GET WHERE YOU WANT TO GET!! NOT MONEY, NOT THE STATUS - JUST PERFORMANCE ON THE FIELD!!
I ALWAYS SAY THAT YOU CAN CHEAT THE SYSTEM SHORT TERM (TALK TO COACH OR OTHER PEOPLE AND MAKE YOUR SON PLAY MORE THAN BEFORE) BUT YOU CAN'T HEAT THE SYSTEM LONG TERM (IF HE DOESN'T HAVE WHAT IT NEEDS TO BE TOP LEVEL PLAYER HE WILL NOT RECH IT).
HE IS NOT PLAYING ENOUGH? WELL, YOU HAVE TWO OPTIONS:
- TELL YOUR SON THAT HE IS PRIVILEGED AND COACH DOESN'T KNOW WHAT HE IS DOING SO YOU JUST LOOK FOR ANOTHER PLACE (AND IN SOME TIME YOU WILL BE LOOKING AGAIN AND AGAIN).
- TELL YOUR SON THAT HE NEEDS TO KEEP WORKING AND SHOW COACH THAT THE TEAM NEEDS YOU ON THE FIELD! IT WILL ALSO TEACH HIM TO BE PATIENT AND WORK FOR HIS SUCCESS!!
PLAYING TIME IS IMPORTANT BUT LET'S BE CLEAR - MOST OF THE DEVELOPMENT HAPPENS DURING TRAINING SO FOCUS ON THIS AND KEEP WORKING AND IMPROVING!!
AND PLEASE REMEMBER THE EXPERIENCE YOUR KID HAS ON THE TEAM IS A LIFE EXPERIENCE - IT IS NOT JUST ABOUT SOCCER!!
_________________________________________________
IF YOU LIVE IN COLORADO AND WANT TO LEARN HOW TO PLAY PROPER SOCCER UNDER PRESSURE - REGISTER FOR OUR SIQ SPRING CAMP NOW!
CAMP WILL START ON MARCH 22ND
SIGN UP FOR THE CAMP HERE:
https://siqacademy.com/springtraining
_________________________________________________
NOW I JUST WANT TO REMIND EVERYONE THAT THOSE PLAYERS IN COLORADO WHO LIKE SIQ TRAINING SHOULD NOT MISS THE OPPORTUNITY TO TRAIN WITH SPANISH COACHES THIS SUMMER!!
IF YOU WANT YOUR PLAYER TO LEARN FROM COACHES WHO THINK ABOUT SOCCER 24/7 - THIS CAMP IS FOR YOU!!
This is not an easy camp as each day players go through two on field training sessions and 90min of classroom video session (on my opinion extremely valuable tool which to my knowledge no camps in Colorado offer).
Each day field training is connected with video session so players can immediately apply on the field the knowledge they got in classroom. Of course it is not easy and requires a lot of focus and hard work during the day but the effect can be very significant - some parents shared with me that this camp had very significant impact on their player's development.
BUT IF YOU ARE SERIOUS ABOUT SOCCER - THIS CAMP IS FOR YOU!!
WE HAVE 10% DISCOUNT UNTILL MARCH 1ST!!!
HERE is link to registration:
https://siqacademy.com/spaintraining
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